Why New Year’s Resolutions Fail And What You Need To Do Instead
As one year comes to a close and a new one presents itself on the horizon, many people begin to reflect on the past year and look at what they’d like to do in the future. As a result, New Year’s resolutions are born.
Resolutions of the Well-Meaning
Many people make resolutions for all sorts of things. Some of the most common resolutions centre around becoming more health-conscious, losing weight and making more money. Some people resolve to be better in their relationships and others desire to get their lives in order. At the core of it all, everyone wants to experience life at a deeper and more fulfilling level. Everyone desires to experience life to its fullest and these New Year’s resolutions seem like the golden tickets for so many.
Once they’ve made their resolutions, people head out to purchase the tools that will help them become more successful. If a person desires to lose weight, they head to their local gym and purchase a gym membership. If the goal involves getting more sleep, a person might think to purchase a new comforter and nightlights that are conducive to better sleep. For someone who wants to become more organized, they might decide they need to go buy a planner, fun markers and lots of sticky notes to colourfully organize their life on paper. Believe it or not, these are the easy parts of the action steps. Many people can do this part. It’s what happens next that gets so many people into trouble.
The Failure Component
Once everyone purchases the equipment that’s needed to be successful, it’s now time to execute. When January 1 rolls around, it’s now time to follow up on all those goals and actually get them in motion. Here’s the problem. You’re still the same person on January 1st that you were on December 4th. You haven’t changed. As a result, your habits haven’t changed. If you don’t will yourself to make time to do yoga stretches every night, buying a yoga mat and a yoga block won’t change that. There are some fundamental questions at the core that need to be answered in order for you to experience true success.
So many people forgo this thought process. This is the reason why so many people fall off their resolutions during the first few weeks of the year. Many people make these life-altering goals and don’t have the proper support to achieve success. According to research statistics, 8% of people actually experience success with their New Year’s resolutions. There is too much at stake for only eight percent to move forward. If you’d like to approach this upcoming year differently, consider trying these 4 tips. Implementation of these steps will help you conquer your New Year’s resolutions from a healthy place.
How to Conquer Your Goals
1. Core Reason
One of the main reasons why people lose their way with their resolutions is because they don’t have a motivating reason. In other words, they don’t have a ‘why’ factor. If you have a motivating reason for why you want to achieve this goal and you focus on that reason, you’ll get a lot further in your resolutions. Write this down daily and come back to it every time you need to kick start your motivation. Another great way of embedding your ‘why’ is by doing daily morning affirmations. While you are driving to work in your car, shout out your ‘why’ repeatedly. You may get some strange looks from other cars but who cares!
2. S.M.A.R.T. Goals
S.M.A.R.T. is an acronym that many successful leaders use to keep track of what they’re doing and how they’re doing it.
‘S’ – stands for specific. Instead of saying that you’d like to be healthier, be more specific. Perhaps you’d like to be healthier by losing weight.
‘M’ – stands for measurable. If you’d like to lose weight, make it a measurable effort. Narrow it down to a specific number. Say that you’d like to lose 50 pounds by December of the following year.
‘A’ – stands for attainable. You want to be fair to yourself in what you shoot for. Be honest with yourself regarding how much weight you can really lose in a year.
‘R’ stands for realistic, which will also reinforce your commitment to maintaining wise and fair expectations of yourself.
‘T’ stands for timely. Make sure you are able to conquer the goal in a timely fashion.
3. Share Your New Years Resolution
If you are afraid of telling a single soul of what you want to achieve then there is a huge chance that you will become part of the 92% group that fail. Do you think that Michael Jordan kept his goal of becoming the best basketball player of all time and winning multiple championships a secret? Ummmm no, just ask his opponents. But he also had the rock solid support of his wife and his parents to help him through the dark times (yes, Michael Jordan is human like you and me). Everyone at some stage will need some support, encouragement or just a plain old pat on the back with a ‘well done, you are doing great’. Let people know what you are setting out to achieve!
4. Elephant Concept
One of the best ways to conquer any goal is through the elephant concept. When people ask, “How do you eat an elephant?” The answer is, “one bite at a time”. No, you can’t eat an actual elephant, but when you break it down, it’s easier to ingest. The same concept applies to goals. Sure, 50 pounds may feel extremely difficult to conquer, but if you break the goal down, it’s easier to manage. 50 pounds in a year might sound hard. However, 1 pound a week or 4.2 pounds a month will feel a lot smaller and easier to manage in the long run. Conquer the smaller, bite-sized goals and you’ll eventually see great success with your New Year’s resolutions!